As a professional with many years working in this often dark and scary world I understand and empathise with the challenges and enduring sadness and desperation that is at the heart of every person who is supporting their loved ones through the minefield of Eating Disordered behaviour, and how totally consuming it can be. I understand how overwhelming it can be and how the journey to recovery is often hugely frustrating and and how hopeless and helpless you may be feeling as you endure this overpowering battle to support your loved ones towards health.
I have had much success working with families sometimes seemingly entrenched in the world of eating disorders who feel that they are sinking in quick sand or drowning at the mercy of these often cruel and unrelenting illnesses. My job is to help you as a family understand the war that goes on in your loved one’s heads, constantly and with a totally engulfing cruelty.
I will work with you to fight back, and regain your power as a family and teach you the skills that will enable you to deal with the huge difficulties you have been enduring in the world that you would never have chosen as the path for your loved ones to have ever walked.
Ring me on 01892-546773 or 07746679301 for a conversation about how I can support you and your family or email me on firstname.lastname@example.org and I will get back to you at the very earliest opportunity.
* This below workshop is delivered completely separately from me, however, I have added it to my website due to the fact I have been on Jennifer Langley’s workshops in the past and have referred my clients families and loved ones onto her with extremely positive and enduring results.*
Collaborative Care New Maudsley Skills Workshops for Carers
Sevenoaks Spring 2018 at 6 Granville Road, Sevenoaks, TN13 1ER
Friday May 18th from 9.30am to 4.30pm for workshops 1&2, Friday June 8th from 9.30am to 4.30pm for workshops 3&4 and Saturday June 23rd from 9.30am to 12.30 pm for workshop 5.
I have attached a brochure, details of the New Maudsley book and DVD, a presentation introducing the workshops and a flyer.
Caring for a loved one with an eating disorder can be exhausting, distressing and disorientating. Many carers feel they are drowning, they have tried everything and don’t know where to turn next. Well put on your oxygen mask and immerse yourself in these workshops based on the New Maudsley approach which has helped so many families to navigate their way through a seemingly impossible task. These workshops are full of practical tips, real life scenarios and case studies and are designed to help carers develop self-reflective skills in order to role model confidence, compassion and courage to take risks, and on how to experiment with changing their own behaviour so they can be more helpful to their Loved One.
These workshops offer professional techniques for becoming a ‘Change Coach’ for your loved one, including:
- Dealing with challenging behaviour
- Specialised communication skills
- Avoiding traps that may maintain the disorder
- Supporting recovery
Feedback from carers who have attended in the past has been overwhelmingly positive. Three example from past series:
“Jenny you are an Angel! When I arrived (at the workshop) I looked around at some haunted faces, heard some traumatic stories, relived my own terror at times, and yet .. your unerring positivity, your calmness, your all-encompassing embrace, your skill, your knowledge and true EMPATHY(!) lifted the darkness and I am sure made everyone feel SO much better. I feel more positive today than I have for ages. It may not last, but that’s Ok because today is good, and tomorrow looks alright too! “
“Jenny has the ability to instill confidence and a belief that there is light at the end of what is a long, narrow, dark tunnel, which we can only reach when we accept that we can guide our loved ones but not solve their problems for them. There was a range of different caring scenarios that Jenny had to cater for in our group but the common theme was our wanting help, and Jenny’s guidance and inspiration was felt and appreciated by everyone there. My thoughts have turned to the session time & time again. I definitely had a eureka moment in that is not about how quickly I want or I think my daughter should recover but about the right rate of recovery for her – and by coincidence she asked me this evening why she wasn’t seeing a faster rate of weight restoration whilst she was eating so much more & I was able to explain the increased metabolic rate and we chatted through your earlier email about the challenges of refeeding!”
“Being in such a warm, relaxed and open environment with people going through such a spectrum of experiences that all shared a common thread was quite humbling. My older daughter’s openness about her recovery from her bulimia was inspirational and gave such hope – as did hearing about your son’s incredible recovery. I’ve already seen my stopping to really listen rather than my talking has made a difference to my younger daughter today too! Whilst I know it is important to take each day as it comes but this evening, I feel optimistic that all will be as it is meant to be. Thank you so so much – you give of yourself to so many of us, but like a ripple in a pond, the impact of your help reaches so far and is felt by so many.”
These sessions are open to any carers of a loved one with an eating disorder and related issues, whether or not you live with your loved one and whether or not you and/or you loved one live in Kent. We have had carers attend from all over the South East and even some from overseas. Parents, spouses, friends, siblings, school nurses & support staff are all welcome although spaces are limited and you do need to book a space in advance. Please feel free to forward this on to anyone else who might be interested.
As you know the Kent eating disorder service is in transition and so unable to fund these workshops at this time. The Charlie Waller Memorial Trust has kindly agreed to cover my costs and any donation attendees can make to this fabulous charity will be very gratefully received.
Please let me know if you would like a place on this series.
trained by Beat and the Maudsley
Author: Boys Get Anorexia Too. Supporter Men Get Eating Disorders Too
Winner 2016 Royal College of Psychiatrists Carer Contributor of the Year
Winner 2014 Beat Education and Awareness Award
Beat and Charlie Waller Memorial Trust Associate Trainer
Mental Health First Aid Youth Instructor