Skills Workshops For Anyone Caring For Loved Ones With an Eating Disorder

As a professional with many years working in this often dark and scary world I understand and empathise with the challenges and enduring sadness and desperation that is at the heart of every person who is supporting their loved ones through the minefield of Eating Disordered behaviour, and how totally consuming it can be. I understand how overwhelming it can be and how the journey to recovery is often hugely frustrating and and how hopeless and helpless you may be feeling as you endure this overpowering battle to support your loved ones towards health.

I have had much success working with families sometimes seemingly entrenched in the world of eating disorders who feel that they are sinking in quick sand or drowning at the mercy of these often cruel and unrelenting illnesses. My job is to help you as a family understand the war that goes on in your loved one’s heads, constantly and with a totally engulfing cruelty.

I will work with you to fight back, and regain your power as a family and teach you the skills that will enable you to deal with the huge difficulties you have been enduring in the world that you would never have chosen as the path for your loved ones to have ever walked.

Ring me on 01892-546773 or 07746679301 for a conversation about how I can support you and your family or email me on info@healing-minds.co.uk and I will get back to you at the very earliest opportunity.

* This below workshop is delivered completely separately from me, however, I have added it to my website due to the fact I have been on Jennifer Langley's workshops in the past and have referred my clients families and loved ones onto her with extremely positive and enduring results.*

I have attached a brochure, details of the New Maudsley book and DVD, a presentation introducing the workshops and a flyer.

Caring for a loved one with an eating disorder can be exhausting, distressing and disorientating. Many carers feel they are drowning, they have tried everything and don’t know where to turn next. Well put on your oxygen mask and immerse yourself in these workshops based on the New Maudsley approach which has helped so many families to navigate their way through a seemingly impossible task. These workshops are full of practical tips, real life scenarios and case studies and are designed to help carers develop self-reflective skills in order to role model confidence, compassion and courage to take risks, and on how to experiment with changing their own behaviour so they can be more helpful to their Loved One.

These workshops offer professional techniques for becoming a ‘Change Coach’ for your loved one, including:

Dealing with challenging behaviour
Specialised communication skills
Avoiding traps that may maintain the disorder
Supporting recovery
Feedback from carers who have attended in the past has been overwhelmingly positive. Three example from past series:

“Jenny you are an Angel! When I arrived (at the workshop) I looked around at some haunted faces, heard some traumatic stories, relived my own terror at times, and yet .. your unerring positivity, your calmness, your all-encompassing embrace, your skill, your knowledge and true EMPATHY(!) lifted the darkness and I am sure made everyone feel SO much better. I feel more positive today than I have for ages. It may not last, but that's Ok because today is good, and tomorrow looks alright too! “

“Jenny has the ability to instill confidence and a belief that there is light at the end of what is a long, narrow, dark tunnel, which we can only reach when we accept that we can guide our loved ones but not solve their problems for them. There was a range of different caring scenarios that Jenny had to cater for in our group but the common theme was our wanting help, and Jenny’s guidance and inspiration was felt and appreciated by everyone there. My thoughts have turned to the session time & time again. I definitely had a eureka moment in that is not about how quickly I want or I think my daughter should recover but about the right rate of recovery for her - and by coincidence she asked me this evening why she wasn't seeing a faster rate of weight restoration whilst she was eating so much more & I was able to explain the increased metabolic rate and we chatted through your earlier email about the challenges of refeeding!”

“Being in such a warm, relaxed and open environment with people going through such a spectrum of experiences that all shared a common thread was quite humbling. My older daughter’s openness about her recovery from her bulimia was inspirational and gave such hope - as did hearing about your son’s incredible recovery. I've already seen my stopping to really listen rather than my talking has made a difference to my younger daughter today too! Whilst I know it is important to take each day as it comes but this evening, I feel optimistic that all will be as it is meant to be. Thank you so so much - you give of yourself to so many of us, but like a ripple in a pond, the impact of your help reaches so far and is felt by so many.”

These sessions are open to any carers of a loved one with an eating disorder and related issues, whether or not you live with your loved one and whether or not you and/or you loved one live in Kent. We have had carers attend from all over the South East and even some from overseas. Parents, spouses, friends, siblings, school nurses & support staff are all welcome although spaces are limited and you do need to book a space in advance. Please feel free to forward this on to anyone else who might be interested.

As you know the Kent eating disorder service is in transition and so unable to fund these workshops at this time. The Charlie Waller Memorial Trust has kindly agreed to cover my costs and any donation attendees can make to this fabulous charity will be very gratefully received.

Collaborative Care New Maudsley Skills Workshops for Carers

 Dates and Venue for Spring Term 2019

6 Granville Road, Sevenoaks, TN13 1ER

Friday 1st Feb from 9.30am to 4.30pm (workshop 1 & 2) Friday 8th  from 9.30am to 4.30pm (workshop 3 & 4) and Saturday 9th Feb from 9.30am to 12.30pm (workshop 5)

I have attached a brochure, details of the New Maudsley book and DVD, a presentation introducing the workshops and a flyer.

Please let me know if you would like a place on this series.

Forward Dates for Carers Support in West Kent 2019

Monday 21st January

Monday 25th February in Sevenoaks

Monday 25 March

Monday April 29th in Sevenoaks

Monday 3rd June

Monday 24 June

Monday 22 July

Monday 2 September in Sevenoaks

Monday 30th September TBC

Monday 4th November TBC

Monday 2nd December TBC

Please note that some are not the last Monday of the month, and several will be held in Sevenoaks (6 Granville Road, TN13 1ER)

 Some testimonials from carers who have attended the carers support group:

“I really appreciate all the help which you have offered me in various ways, particularly in respect of the anorexic issues I’ve struggled with. Your service is clearly run with dedication, expertise and warmth and I feel privileged to have been on the receiving end of it, if only briefly. I have felt both comforted and enlightened at a time of despair, which has meant a great deal to me. Should my daughter decline over coming months, I’ll be back in touch, but for the moment will opt to take a step back from meeting with the group (who I wish all the very best to and will continue to support in spirit).” 

 “The “new format” carers support group in which we use the skills from the New Maudsley method is working really well as it makes our conversation more focused and positive. For example, yesterday we used cycle of change, ABC, DARN, SMART, readiness/ confidence ruler, looking for green shoots, taking small steps and praise. It is amazing how you can reframe a seemingly negative behaviour change into something much more positive. The carers seem to be really embracing the ideas, they just need the odd prompt to remind them.”

 “Wonderful meeting and follow up e-mail Jenny! Again holding a light in the darkness for so many. What a wonderful day in my life when I met you Jenny. Thank you for taking the time and thought to send this. Hope you are all well. Warm thoughts and a big hug.”

 “Thank you for the last meeting and for sending me this email about this awesome mother!  It was especially moving as that was what I felt like when helping my daughter to get better.  It felt like I was in a battle with anorexia and I wasn't going to let her win.  You need to remain focused and learn as much as you can to outsmart your enemy, and attending your workshops and group helped me to do just that.  So thank you!”

 “Keep up the good work dear Jenny.  I shall always be indebted to you for breaking open the glories of successful communication despite the overbearing presence of an ED.  I am continuing to build on that foundation with every help we are offered.”

 “Hi Jenny, have just read this (follow up e-mail) and I'm so glad I did! Hope is very important for carers, maintaining it is very hard at times, but actually I don't think you have a choice”

“Thanks Jenny, I feel like I am living on a different stratosphere at the moment. It does worry me how she will ever eat for us. I took our daughter out on Saturday over her afternoon snack and she refused so I had to take her back early. I am coming tomorrow night to yours.  Your sessions are keeping me going and enabling me to continue to talk to our daughter even in her angry moments.”

 As ever please let me know if there is ever anything specific you would like me to cover, or any guests you would like me to invite. 

Much love

Jenny

Jenny Langley

07887 840470

www.eda-westkent.org.uk

www.boyanorexia.com

trained by Beat and the Maudsley

Author: Boys Get Anorexia Too. Supporter Men Get Eating Disorders Too

Winner 2016 Royal College of Psychiatrists Carer Contributor of the Year

Winner 2014 Beat Education and Awareness Award

Beat and Charlie Waller Memorial Trust Associate Trainer

Mental Health First Aid Youth Instructor

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Much love

Jenny

Jenny Langley

07887 840470

www.eda-westkent.org.uk

www.boyanorexia.com

trained by Beat and the Maudsley

Author: Boys Get Anorexia Too. Supporter Men Get Eating Disorders Too

Winner 2016 Royal College of Psychiatrists Carer Contributor of the Year

Winner 2014 Beat Education and Awareness Award

Beat and Charlie Waller Memorial Trust Associate Trainer

Mental Health First Aid Youth Instructor